Last month, I recap’d my experience at the Landmark Forum. To be honest, I kind of thought that would be it for me. I’d done my time and I’d soon be on to the next thing. Yet I’ve honestly found a lot of the ideas and concepts from it recirculating in my brain constantly. But not only have they been in my head, they’ve actually been playing out in my day to day life.
With your tuition & completion of the Landmark Forum, you also receive access to one of their many post-forum seminars. The idea is to reinforce your learnings from the forum and support you in practicing the application of them everyday.
Kind of like how we all wonder how candidates on “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette” will ever find a way to make their ‘love’ work in ‘real life’. Or how contestants on “The Biggest Loser” keep the weight off when they return home from the ranch.
Conveniently, there was a seminary in my area, kicking off late summer, at the one time my calendar is actually clear, with content…
on being extraordinary.
Say what?? First they told me my life was empty & meaningless and now they want to bring me back to talk about how to be extraordinary?
Head spins. Eye rolls. Scoffs. So not going.
…Ok, maybe there was a little bit of piqued interest.
Fine, a lot a bit of piqued interest. I mean, hell, you can tell me you don’t want to hear more about being extraordinary. You’re reading this post aren’t you?
We started off the seminar laying the foundation, and of course, allowing people from the class to come up and share some of their latest
experiences or things that were coming up for them. Always interesting, to say the least.
Then we went into the distinctions of ordinary vs. extraordinary, which actually fueled me in a big way.
I mean seriously, there are SO many ordinary ways of doing things. And most of us are perfectly content with that way. Now before you roll your eyes, really think about it.
Ordinary is neither ‘good’ nor ‘bad’. It’s neither playing the hero, show-off, or slacker. It’s getting by. It’s going through the motions. It’s doing only ‘just enough’ as to avoid criticism, critique, or even praise.
It’s safe. It’s practical. It’s easy. It’s ordinary.
But the cost of ‘ordinary‘ is really so much more. Most commonly, ordinary also feels like ‘numb‘, resigned, unconscious, or ‘as good as its going to get’.
On the contrary, being extraordinary, is nature’s coffee, it’s about saying yes and sticking to it, it’s about exploring new territory, perspectives, ideas, and concepts. It’s thinking “what if we were invited to the party for the design of our lives?”
It might look like: self-expression, acceptance, sense of humor, honesty, love, integrity, vitality, playfulness, passion, a drive for relationships, kindness, “on the court” behavior vs. “being in the stands” of our own game…the list goes on.
But everyone and I mean everyone starts at ordinary.
‘Extra’ordinary happens when we invent a new possibility for ourselves and our lives. It’s creating a commitment. It’s living true to that possibility–authentically, and with integrity everyday. Like most things, it’s a practice.
It’s believing that aside from the God-given plan for our lives, the notion of “self” is up for invention & creation. It’s knowing that we’re in the driver’s seat; the captain of our ship, the artist of our craft.
I learned that being extraordinary is:
“having integrity & honoring your word. giving up being right. being powerful and straight in your communication. being courageous and acknowledging your fear…then acting. being peaceful and giving up the interpretation “something is wrong here”. being charismatic and letting go of “in order to” or “trying to make it” in life. It’s being enrolling & sharing your possibility to inspire, touch, and move others by it.”
Trust me, I’d be blind like a bat out of hell if I thought I was all of those things. Let’s just get 100% real here.
So, I think it’s safe to say I’ll be going back for the next session. And what I’ll be sharing with you is some of my learnings, and self-actualizations all along the way.
I plan to keep a dedicated journal throughout the ~4 month seminar and will reflect week to week on where I’m at with it all.
Questions I’m thinking about this week:
-where am I not free to be myself?
-where is there a limit on the expression of my love or affinity?
-what is an area in my life where I experiencing being ordinary?
-and finally, the practice of integrity everyday (where did I struggle, what came up, where were victories?)
By all means, join me in this contemplation and feel free to get in on the conversation.
“I don’t want easy. I want crazy.”
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